Hannah Shahabi, LPC and Roland Scheppske, LPC are two millennial therapists living in Virginia. Hannah and Roland have often found themselves having lengthy conversations with one another and developing hot takes about different therapy topics. It was in these discussions that the two of them realized a lot of ways that they mentally envisioned these aspects, were through the specific lens of a millennial (i.e. those born between the years of 1981-1996). With the fun spin these life experiences give to their hot takes, both Hannah and Roland decided that being able to express these thoughts and appeal to others, who often find themselves in a “I’m fine, this is fine” mentality, would not only be fun, but also beneficial. Specifically, for listeners to be inspired to seek out and achieve betterment in their own therapy journey. The You Seem Fine podcast provides an inside look on how Hannah and Roland conduct therapy around that topic. as well as how they handle that personally in a segment called “Behind the Couch and Under the Cushion”. As a fun bonus, Hannah and Roland lean into their Swiftie side by sharing their Taylor Swift lyric of the week at the start of each episode during the “I Don’t Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift” segment.

THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL.

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss the idea of Stealth Expectations and how they appear within society, in the therapy room, as well as how they each handle Stealth Expectations in their own lives. Stealth Expectations are beliefs and expectations we hold about situations that are not communicated and agreed upon. In another definition given by Brene Brown, famed academic podcaster and the chair of University of Houston’s Graduate College of Social Work, she defines stealth expectations as, “A desire to or expectation that exists outside our awareness and typically includes a dangerous combination of fear and magical thinking. Stealth expectations almost always lead to disappointment, resentment, and more fear.” Other types of expectations are explored in comparison to stealth expectations such as high expectations, similarities with goals and obligations, unsaid expectations, & unmet expectations. Hannah and Roland additionally discuss how ideas of linear healing and mirroring of conditional love have a role in the creation of expectations.

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss what boundaries are, how to enact and establish boundaries, the different kinds of boundaries, and how boundaries are meant to better a person’s own life and not put in place for other people. The general definition of a boundary is a line or limit that marks the edge of extent of something physical, emotional, or conceptual. Boundaries serve to delineate areas, set limits, and establish rules for interaction. In a mental health space, emotional and conceptual boundaries are the focus. Within the discussion of boundaries and how to make and uphold them, Hannah and Roland discuss societal expectations that may impact boundary making, the self awareness needed to recognize when boundaries are needed/crossed, and how to acknowledge and validate what a person’s own needs are in the process.

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss the overlap between acting Selfish, participating in Self Care, and being Self Indulgent. As a fun twist on the overlap, Hannah and Roland play a game with the three aspects of self and discuss how they came to that conclusion for themselves. Selfish is described as lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. Self Care is defined as the process of establishing behaviors to ensure holistic well-being of oneself, to promote health, and actively manage illness when it occurs. Lastly, self indulgence refers to the excessive or unrestrained gratification of one's own appetites, desires, or whims.

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland go over the "That Girl" phenomenon and the different takes on it. Generally speaking, That Girl refers to a wellness archetype that has become popular on social media. It represents women or people who prioritize self-improvement, wellness, and mindfulness. In this episode, Hannah and Roland discuss the ups and downs of this process and how it can be portrayed as too much/unrealistic as well as a glimpse into what it would be like to do it in a healthy way.

During this week’s episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland elaborate on the Black Sheep role within the family system. The black sheep is an idiom that describes a member of a group, who is different from the rest, especially a family member who does not fit in. Hannah and Roland discuss how applying aspects of IFS (Internal Family Systems) as well as techniques from other practices can be used to help empower the Black Sheep into being a Cycle Breaker. A cycle breaker is somebody who sees an unhealthy cycle of behavior in their family of origin and intentionally works to break that cycle. Within this transformation, the parts that help to manage that change such as the Inner Child, Manager, Firefighter, etc., are defined and outlined.