Hannah Shahabi, LPC and Roland Scheppske, LPC are two millennial therapists living in Virginia. Hannah and Roland have often found themselves having lengthy conversations with one another and developing hot takes about different therapy topics. It was in these discussions that the two of them realized a lot of ways that they mentally envisioned these aspects, were through the specific lens of a millennial (i.e. those born between the years of 1981-1996). With the fun spin these life experiences give to their hot takes, both Hannah and Roland decided that being able to express these thoughts and appeal to others, who often find themselves in a “I’m fine, this is fine” mentality, would not only be fun, but also beneficial. Specifically, for listeners to be inspired to seek out and achieve betterment in their own therapy journey. The You Seem Fine podcast provides an inside look on how Hannah and Roland conduct therapy around that topic. as well as how they handle that personally in a segment called “Behind the Couch and Under the Cushion”. As a fun bonus, Hannah and Roland lean into their Swiftie side by sharing their Taylor Swift lyric of the week at the start of each episode during the “I Don’t Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift” segment.

THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL.

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss the idea of Stealth Expectations and how they appear within society, in the therapy room, as well as how they each handle Stealth Expectations in their own lives. Stealth Expectations are beliefs and expectations we hold about situations that are not communicated and agreed upon. In another definition given by Brene Brown, famed academic podcaster and the chair of University of Houston’s Graduate College of Social Work, she defines stealth expectations as, “A desire to or expectation that exists outside our awareness and typically includes a dangerous combination of fear and magical thinking. Stealth expectations almost always lead to disappointment, resentment, and more fear.” Other types of expectations are explored in comparison to stealth expectations such as high expectations, similarities with goals and obligations, unsaid expectations, & unmet expectations. Hannah and Roland additionally discuss how ideas of linear healing and mirroring of conditional love have a role in the creation of expectations.